Let's talk about MEN.

I was reading a magazine and the article was an interview with supposedly one of Indonesia’s ‘eligible bachelor’. A question asks what type of woman he would like to date and the answer states ‘a feminine girl, but not high maintenance’.

Before I start blogging – some of you might assume this is a ranting, complaining, self-denying, or anything else negative – let me put it this way. This writing shall be about a personal view of mine, anything I said might be subjected to what I believe in.

I like to read a lot on articles regarding men’s preferences, perfume, clothing, food, way of thinking.. Basically anything. Of course, their preference of women is included. Here are some of some RIDICULOUS preferences I have ever read.

1) “Preferably someone who looks good in jeans, nice figure, can eat a lot – especially the food I made”.

2) “Someone who are willing to bear me many children, and not obssesed with branded bags”.

3) “Someone feminine and not high maintenance”.

There are so many ridiculous and selfish ones but I could not remember many at the moment.

Anyway, let’s analyze those statements one by one.

Statement number 1 basically asks for a women who has high metabolism, can eat buckets of fried chickens but he wants the girl to still fit on skinny jeans without flaunting any excess fats.

Statement number 2 actually asks a girl to breed like an animal and in compensation, not even handing her a proper bag which eventually will be used to store the husband’s items like car keys, purse, tissues, and God-knows-what items.

Third statement actually wants a girl who have nice curled hair, stylish clothes, nice heels, great make up with perfect nails only to have everything less than SGD 100. You serious??? At this economy??

I wrote this not to degrade men. I don’t judge them for being practical and logical. It’s just.... there are so many things in female’s life that they do not understand. The way I interpret those statements above might be exaggerated, but trust me, the meaning is somewhat, somewhere there.

When a girl spends too much (time, money, effort) on clothes, make-ups, heels, bags, that’s just because females are the most insecure human being. We want to look our best to impress men, just as we know men are ‘visual’ human being. Yet some men might interpret it wrongly, saying that they really ‘do not mind’ we dress simply, but when a perfect looking woman pass by, men’s heads still turned around and they still rate the woman’s ass, boobs or whatever it is, out of ten.

When we are being petty and ate so little, it's not because we do not appreciate the dinner you are buying us. Yes, it looked irritating and uncomfortable that your companion for dinner do not have the same hearty appetite as you. The truth is, we are scared that one blob of fat might show up the next morning, and then guys might start not to appreciate us. All the more, the may start to look up to that neighboring bitch we are scared to lose you to.

When a girl is being concerned, asking men to cut on their drinking, spending on cars or games, it is because many girls do not want themselves to be second priorities. I guess females are insecure, selfish, illogical and many other nonsensical words to describe us.

To sum up, I think the effort that females are making are often misinterpreted by men, when actually all we want to do is to fit into men’s preferences.